Bruce Dias 
When in love, we look at our partners through rose-tinted glasses. We see them as loving, caring, and compassionate people, and we are blind to their negative traits and misbehaviors. However, this ‘blindness’ plays against us in the long term. At some point, we realize that we are unhappy in relationships and can’t change our partners.
Don’t want to end up in such a situation? Be aware of the things you should never tolerate in a relationship.
Abuse
No matter how much you love this person, you should never tolerate abusive physical or verbal behavior. There can’t be excuses for hitting, punching, slapping, shoving, and hair-pulling. If they hurt you once, they will do it again. And the chances are the next time, the outcomes will be more dramatic.
You should understand that an abusive relationship can cost your health or even your life. So once you spot an abuser in your partner, run away without a second thought.
Dishonesty
You can’t build a healthy relationship with someone who is not fully honest with you. If you have caught your partner on a lie, it’s a bad sign. If he has been hiding something important from you, you should find out why he did it. There must be a specific cause. If he can’t explain it or lied more than once, you should say “goodbye” to this person and move on.
Disrespect
Your partner must respect you, your personal boundaries, and your life choices. This person must also treat your friends and family respectfully.
Don’t be with someone who tries to diminish your worth or say bad things about your close people. This person will never make you happy. Remember that you can always start looking for new relationships and find someone who respects and supports you in all your endeavors. You can use Taimi, a dating app for LGBTQ+ people, to find your perfect match.
Inadequate Criticism
If your boyfriend tells you that your burnt pancakes do not taste good (because they are actually burnt), that’s a healthy criticism. But when your partner criticizes everything you do for no apparent reason, that’s a red flag.
Your partner likely has self-esteem issues and criticizes you to satisfy his ego. This problem is unlikely to fix itself. The more you spend time together, the more negative comments you will get from him. You should end this relationship for the sake of your psychological well-being.
Manipulation
Manipulation is a sign of unhealthy relationships. The more your partner manipulates your thoughts and decisions, the more dependent you become. Sadly, such relationships are toxic in nature and never have a happy ending.
The main problem is that victims have a hard time defining manipulative behaviors because manipulators may use different tactics, from repackaging the truth to blackmailing and making passive-aggressive comments.
If you believe your partner manipulates you, you should discuss it with your friends – an outside perspective will help you see the problem more clearly.
Belittling Your Aspirations
Your partner must support you in every life situation, from applying for a new high-paying job to trying a new hobby. If he does the opposite, he is not the right person for you. You shouldn’t be with someone who tells you that you are “not good enough.”” You should find someone who will be your biggest fan and cheerleader.
Wrapping Up
Life is too short, so don’t spend time building relationships with the wrong person. If you are no longer happy as a couple, just let them go. Don’t be afraid to break up and start a new chapter in your life. Believe it or not, your true soulmate is waiting for you to take this step.
